Thursday, April 8, 2010

the quiet

With a husband who works from home and works nearly every waking hour, I have become accustomed to having someone here with me in the house all the time. Personally, I love this. I inherited from my father a gene that hates to do things solo. I just enjoy the company of others. I love having my husband just in the other room even if we are working independent of each other. 

Lately, however, some of my husband's business has taken him "off site." He has had some meetings and lunches and even a business trip or two that have taken him out of the home. He just was at a meeting tonight. And it is so ... quiet when he is out. I don't mean really that there is less noise. But I feel the absence of him. And even if he is only out for a couple of hours ... I miss him.

I know. Pathetic. I sound like a newly married woman who is sad at the first time she has to spend a night away from her husband. But it is just the way it is.

A couple of weeks ago we celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary. He took me to a nice restaurant. We sat on the patio over looking the famous local dancing fountains at one the nice hotels here. It was one of the most romantic dinners we have ever had. The waters danced and my heart sang. 

I love my husband. He is my best friend. These short times he goes away only remind me how much I love him. Sometimes we need to feel the quiet to appreciate the background music that fills our everyday lives. 

9 comments:

Puhlman said...

I find this wonderful. I remember going to play groups and other interactions with girlfriends. I hear so often that when their husbands are home for too long it drives them nuts. Well....for me....I would LOVE to have mine home more often. I look forward to when he walks in the door and it is my favorite time of the day. When he is here I am with him...whether it is in the garden or in the workshop...I am there. I think all wives should consider their husbands their best friends. Thanks for sharing.

sarah s said...

It's not pathetic- it is sweet! I love your last sentence about background music- so true!

shanan said...

simple solution ... I'll just move back in with you! :D

Happy Belated Anniversary. You and Jon are an amazing couple and such wonderful people. I miss you guys!

Cardalls said...

My home feels incomplete when my husband is gone...when he comes home we feel whole again! I think that's how any marriage should feel!

rntina said...

I realize that I don't know you but I have been following your blog for some time now. I envy what you have and I long for that connection. I am hopeful that one day my children will know a love like this. Cherish one another, you are both lucky to have each other.

Sharron said...

Definitely NOT pathetic! Hubby and I are at 32 years, still counting and find that over the years, we crave time together more all the time. When he is home, we are seldom in the same room, but just love to look in on the other to say I love you, give a pat, exchange a smile and if he is really engrossed in his work, I just see that he is HERE.

Heather said...

I love this. I feel the exact same way!

Anja said...

This made me very sad, because this is exactly how I feel. To the T. - However, 2 years into our 6 year marriage, my husband took on a job that turned out to have him travel on business trips regularly. First it was twice a year for 2-3 weeks each. Now it's a different story. He has been gone for more than a third of the year to date and currently he is on a 6 week assignment (we're half way thru). I never wanted to raise our children alone, and being a single mom while still being married has it's very unique challenges. And there is very little monetary gain from him being gone, not that it would change the loneliness...
This year I will be spending my 30th birthday alone, as well as Mother's day.
Thank you for this post. I truly treasure every day that my husband comes home after work.

Marleen said...

I so agree. Awesome city towers though? I will be calling you soon for that babysitter number.