Sunday, October 26, 2008

News on the Waite Front

Some of you may have noticed that I have missed a few posts this week. I try to post everyday. The problem is that most days I have the time and inspiration for my post at night. The kids are finally in bed and my thoughts always wax more profound at night. This has always been true for me. 

So it has been pretty hard for me to post the last while because I keep falling asleep before my kids do. That and the fact that from 3 p.m. on I have been laid out on the couch, my bed, or in the tub trying not to think about how sick I feel. Yes folks, I guess it is as safe as it ever will be to announce that I am expecting -- 13 weeks now. That makes my due date May 5. Wahoo!

We are very happy about the pregnancy. It has been really hard and really wonderful all at the same time for me. The hormones have just made the grief that much more intense at times, but the hope and work of creating a new life is healing. Plus the sickness, while it basically sucks, is at least distracting. It is hard to focus on your hurting heart when you just want to hurl. 

As for the question I have been asked by all who know thus far -- "Do you want a girl or a boy?" My answer is a decided, "I don't care." I would like a healthy baby. If we are ever going to have a boy, this is probably a good time now that I have this big gap between kids. But I just love little girls. I would love to have another little girl. And I am curious about what it would be like to have a son. So really, I don't care or have any premonitions about that.

Jon on the other hand, well, he has informed the baby it is a boy. And he has a name all picked out. I just roll my eyes at him, his decision that this will be a boy, and his chosen name. I have heard all of that before from him - a few times.

So I still have a few sick weeks left. Usually I start to feel better between 14 and 16 weeks and then finally like food again by 18 weeks. I am just really hoping I am loving food by Thanksgiving. I really love Thanksgiving dinner. It is my favorite meal of the year. My parents are awesome cooks. I really want to be able to enjoy it this year. I should be 17 weeks by then so I am hopeful. 

I will try to start posting in the morning so I don't miss days, but I can't make any guarantees. Some mornings, I just have to go wrangle my little loveys. Judging from the pounding on the ceiling, I think I need to go do that right now.

104 comments:

Sleepless In St. George said...

Congrats....I would love to see a little Jonathan running around! Hope you're feeling better soon!

Miss Molly said...

I'm so glad the news is out! I'm glad I have someone on the same roller coaster that I can talk to about hormones and grief. Camille and Lucy will never be replaced, but how wonderful it will be to have something so pure and precious in our lives again to put our energy into.

Vic is also hoping for a boy...though he would never fully admit how much. (But I can tell you--it's not just a little bit). Husbands are funny...

Lisa said...

How wonderful for you!!!!! Don't worry about not keeping up the posts as often. Take care of yourself first and worry about all of us last.

H From Oregon said...

I've been a silent reader here now for about four or five months but after reading your last post, I just had to speak up and offer my congratulations. I seriously got goosebumps when I read that you are expecting. I know it sounds strange but I think Camille sent you this baby. Of course not as any kind of "replacement" but just to help you move forward. I don't even know you but I am truly so so happy for you right now. What a true blessing.

Stacey said...

I am so happy for you and your family. I hope you are feeling better by Thanksgiving. I, too, love that meal and that day. I read you everyday and hope that you don't worry about us Daily Scoopers missing you. We will survive. :) You just need to take care of yourself.

Brad said...

Congratulations, Stephanie and Jonathan! The Ballards wish you all the best with your pregnancy.

Amanda said...

Oh do I know exactly how you are feeling with the nausea and the sleep. I too am due May 5th! Congrats!!

Mommy Poulsen said...

Congratulations! Just think Camille is up in Heaven talking to your new baby right now! How neat is that?!

Kevin and Natali McKee said...

I am about 10 weeks right now. This is my 5th child and was definitely a surprise because my 4th has just turned 6 months. I found out with my last pregnancy, that if I suck on some peppermint (candy canes last year and those circle peppermints this year) it eliminates the nausea for a few hours. It has saved me from throwing up a few times as well. I recommend trying it.
Congrats!!

Kate said...

I hope that you're feeling much better soon.
Lovely news but understandably difficult emotions to face.
Delurking and congratulating,
Kate

Tara L. said...

Congratulations Stephanie. That is great news.

Shanan said...

Yay!! Congrats!!

Mimi's Toes said...

Oh Stephanie, Congrats! I am so happy I checked your blog right now. I was feeling a little down and was actually on my way to take a nap, which I never do in the middle of the day, but something told me to check your blog and I am so glad I did. It really lifted my spirits reading your news. My 6th grand-child will be due on May 13th, so it's going to be an exciting month!

PletcherFamily said...

Congratulations! What wonderful news. I cannot wait to follow along with your pregnancy and joy when you finally have your baby in your arms.

a.k.a. Jack said...

Congratulations, Stephanie and Jon! That is wonderful news. I hope that your nausea eases up before Thanksgiving, Steph. Stupid morning sickness. We all understand if you miss some posts. :) Love you.

Maggie May said...

Oh congratulations!!! I have been following your story and I am very happy for you and your family.
xo

Jeremy and ShaLayne said...

Congrats...We are very excited for you. I hope you start feeling better soon.

Julie said...

Ohhhhhhhh God is so Good. He is so so so Good.

Congatrulations Stephanie. I am so happy for you. I have never met you but am so ecstatic for you and your whole family. What a true, pure, blessing straight from the Good Lord Himself.

Praise God.

-Julie

PS. Thanksgiving is my favorite meal too-- pace yourself : )

Familia Martinez said...

Congrats! Best wishes on the pregnancy. I wish you didn't have the sickness though. Camille is up there teaching this child all of the little quirks that you have as a family and giving "him" a heads up on what earth life is about. Girl or Boy, it will have a head start because it's big sister was able to fill in the blanks. Who knows maybe the veil will stay thinner for this one so that Camille can let you know that she is still there with you, that she still loves and watches over you.

Congrats again - - We love you!

Angie, Anthony, Araya, Ammon and Baby A coming soon.

Stephanie said...

Congratulations! So happy for you.

Jennie said...

Congratulations! I am thrilled for you both. My son was born on Cinco de Mayo as well. I really hope that the sickness will go away quickly. I am sick A LOT while pregnant as well- so while I have no tricks on combating it- I can sympathize with you. My best friend lost her 11 month old daughter. She had another baby shortly after, and would tell me how healing it was for her to have another precious Child of God. He certainly didn't replace her daughter, but I think she felt a closeness to her daughter through her new baby. I pray that you will feel the same thing. Just imagine the things Camille is teaching your little one about your family from the other side! Congrats again!

Misty said...

I have been reading your blog for awhile now and am amazed by your strength. I have had a feeling lately that you might be sharing good news like this. I am so happy for your family. I am mommy to 2 boys and they are a dream come true! If you are blessed with a boy, you will be so happy! Don't worry that it is new to you. They are fun all the time! Feel free to check out my blog to peek in our lives. Congratulations!!!!

Ben and Taryn said...

You are so blessed! Congrats on the big news. I hope all goes well and that this new baby brings peace to your heart and soul. The Lord is totally watching out for you.

Todd and Amyjoy said...

Congratulations from Boise!
Yeah, boy or girl it is happy news!
So many of my friends and I follow your blog and we feel like we know you. I just keep feeling that you are doing a tremendous service with bearing your testimony and working through your grief. I feel that your loss will be (and has been) a teacher to so so many people.
Have a wonderful sick stage and hope all goes very very well for you!

Sarah said...

Congratulations! I wish you all the best and hopefully you can stop feeling that pregnant yuckiness soon!

Mrs. Morty said...

Oh how wonderful, I love spring babies!! What a wonderfully acceptable reason to miss a post. Congratulations!!

DEANNA said...

Congratulations to you and your family. I am sure Camille is up there with your new little angel telling secrets!!!

Chelsea said...

Congratulations! What great news for your and your family!!! :)

Mindy said...

Best news I have heard all day. :)

scrap chair potato said...

Congratulations! I was just thinking about you this morning and wondering when you would announce a pregnancy...weird. That is so awesome. That baby is lucky to have the chance to come to your family!

Bridget said...

Congratulations! Our Jocelyn was born just 6 days after our little Evan died. The emotions are a strange mix, but the joy of a new spirit (and a lot of basic need fulfillment) distracts from the pain of death. I hope you feel better (physically) soon. Throwing up all the time is lousy.

Mandi said...

Congratulations!! That's very exciting.

mckenna said...

Congratulations!! I can't think of any other words. Just congratulations!! Congratulation!! Congratulations!!

The "Street" Clairs said...

Congrats! I hope you feel better soon and are able to enjoy Thanksgiving. It's my favorite holiday of the year and I love planning a fun menu.

Kathryn_m said...

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE WAITES!

I have never particularly liked ginger-ale and still don't. Yet during my very difficult first pregnancy, my body craved it. Wouldn't you know it was the only thing that settled my stomach! It's amazing how the human body sometimes finds its own remedy. I read afterwards that the ginger root had long been used in ancient medicine to help with digestive woes. Give it a try - who knows?

I pray that Heavenly Father will continue to bless you all.

Love,
kathryn_m

Kara Jayne said...

I am so so thrilled for you. I sure hope you start feeling better soon.

Chelsea said...

congratulations and good luck! i hope all goes well, and as a may 5th baby, i gotta say it's the best. :)

Noorda Notebook said...

yay. such wonderful news! jamo and i also think this one might be a little boy.

RhondaLue said...

HUGE CONGRATS to you and yours!

julie said...

CONGRATULATIONS! I am so happy for you. I hope that you start feeling better soon and that you can enjoy Thanksgiving dinner. What a sweet blessing to have a brand new spirit come straight from Heaven and with all the knowlege his/her big sister Camille can send with him/her. I agree with another reader, that you need to take care of yourself and your family and put posting on the back burner, and post when you feel like it and when you feel up to it. Luvs.

Jill said...

I'm so happy for you! My then three year old sister passed away when I was almost one. Not too long after that, my mom became pregnant with twins. It was such a blessing for her and for our family. I hope you feel better very soon and that you are able to enjoy your Thanksgiving!

LaRae said...

Stephanie & Jonathan - I am so excited for you! Be it a girl or a boy - this new little person will bring much joy into your home, I am sure! Love & hugs to you!

Lindsay said...

Congratulations Stephanie! That is very exciting!!

janalee said...

Congratulations- this is wonderful news :)

Michelle said...

Congratulations!! What a joyous occasion for you and your family. I hope you start to feel better soon. Will keep you in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

I am so happy for you Stephanie and Jon.

Love,

Jane

Dan said...

This is so great. I'm so happy for you. Babies are magical.

Just me! said...

Congratulations!!!

Sue Sparks said...

Congratulations on the happy news!

Char said...

Congratulations. What wonderful news. Good luck with the next few weeks and getting thru the 'yuckies'.

Mandy said...

Congratulations!

Have you ever tried natural ginger ale for the nausea? Canada Dry or the like won't work because it doesn't actually have ginger in it. But if you get a natural ginger ale (like Hansen's) it works wonders!

Good luck!

Heidi said...

Oh, congratulations, Stephanie!!! That is fantastic news and I understand 100% about why it's affecting the frequency of your blog posts. :) Just do what you can and know that we're all so excited for you. I can't wait to hear the gender. (It's sounds like you will be finding out, is that right?)

Tori said...

Wow! Congratulations!! It is so good that this will help you heal. My best friend's family went through a similar tragedy. Hang in there through the sickness-- though I def want to have a kid someday, I really dread that part. Beautiful blog, too. Be blessed!!

GDR said...

I'm so very happy for you Stephanie. You are an excellent mom. Your baby will be very blessed, to come to your home, straight from Camille's arms.

Rhyetta Musser said...

That is wonderful news, Stephanie! I hope the nausea is manageable. When I feel like I can't function at all, vitamin B12 shots really help! It's like a megadose of vitamin B12 and it's magical.

You crack me up how you think about food. I have the same attitude--in fact, I think I got it from you...hoping to not be sick for the holidays.

Love,
Rhyetta

Six-Pack Momma said...

Congratulations, Stephanie! I am so happy for you!

Jennie said...

Oh Congratulations. What wonderful news. I hope the yuckiness passes quickly! My computer crashed this past week and I just barely got up and running. I have missed your inspiring words. Thanks for who you are, what you write. It is amazing.

Starnes fam said...

Congratulations from a silent reader in Boise Idaho! We are thrilled to hear your exciting news!

Tiffany said...

Oh CONGRATS!!!! I am so excited for you guys! I hope that we're be in the same boat soon. Cross your fingers! Camille is working her magic up there!

sarah s. said...

Congratulations! Boy or girl- doesn't matter- this baby is a gift from God!

Kristina said...

I found your blog, from another friends. I hope you don't mind. I am so excited to hear about you expecting. Sorry about your daughter. You have an amazing way with words, keep it up. I wish I had done something like this when we lost our twins. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers.

Scott&Mandi said...

I'm so happy for you Stephanie! Congratulations!

Cynthia and Bryan said...

Congrats !! This is exciting news ! I am sure Camille will help usher this baby into the world. My husband did some research on the angels that surround our children and us and he found that they are all personages that have been here or will be coming here. And the angels have a specific relationship with those that they are ministering to...alright this thought is getting really jumbled if you have time you should look up this topic on the church web site and read what prophets have said about it. It is really cool...Congrats again !

Stephanie said...

Congratulations! I'm thinking boy AND girl--twins! What wonderful, exciting news for your family! I am SO happy for you!

The Gray Family said...

congrats! We are so excited for you. Good luck for an easy pregnancy!

Grandma B said...

Steffenie,
I have been a avid reader of your blog since I found it on Oh Happy Day several months ago. I haven't made a comment before this but I had to tell you that I am so happy to hear your sweet news. A baby who will definately come to you with whisperings of love from your sweet little Camille. That birth will be very sacred and you will feel her near you. God loves you and your family so much and now he is sending a piece of Heaven to you for you to love and hold. I am overjoyed for your family. I will be praying for you.
Oh and I too used Vernon's ginger ale during my first pregnancy for nausea. I don't know if they make it anymore, but an ginger ale with real ginger in it will work.

Becca said...

Hi Stephanie,

You don't know me but I am a daily reader of your blog. You are incredibly inspiring to me. As soon as I saw the title of this blog I thought you might be pregnant! Congratulations and may you have a healthy and happy pregnancy and a healthy and happy new baby!

Heather Adams said...

Dear Waites-
I too have been following your site for sometime. My little girl, Mara, passed away a little over a month ago from a brain tumor (www.maraadams.com). I've found your site inspiring and healing. Thank you for being so darn strong and honest. I am also friends with another angel mom, Deanna White, who I know you've been in contact with. I'm thrilled for your new arrival. Best wishes and lots of prayers for your continued well- being.
Heather Adams

s g said...

congratulations! that is so exciting, nausea is not so exciting, I am sorry, and hopefully it will taper off soon and you can enjoy your turkey to the fullest!

newborns bring such a sense of hope into the world!

Mythreesons said...

Congrats Stephanie and Jon! I'm thrilled for you guys. As for a boy or girl... you obviously make gorgous little girls but I always find myself cursing a boy on people. Just so I have someone to commisserate with... I'm thrilled for you guys and hope you get feeling better soon.

Anonymous said...

Congrats - what a special blessing!

I'm a lurker and I've been wanting to ask something - just your opinion I guess. I found your blog by accident, and have found myself many nights reading and crying, and blog hopping to over grieving parents and crying. I've never been one to worry, but I now find myself worrying about my three little ones constantly.

Do you think this is a prompting? Or just a nosy Mom getting emotional? Tonight at bedtime my four year old asked about heaven and when she would go there and I just started crying on the spot. I'm sure it was random but I can't help but wonder...

Chell said...

Congrats Stef!! Thats amazing and I am so excited for you. May God bless you in this time..

Sue said...

Your news reminds me that life is beautiful, as your new baby will be! Congratulations on such happy news for your and your family.

Randi said...

Oh my! Oh my!! Congratulations! What amazing news. Hope you start feeling better. You are right, it would be a shame to miss Thanksgiving dinner. Oh ya, and you couldn't have a better due date, it's my birthday!!

CONGRATS again!

tharker said...

I am beyond thrilled for you!

Congratulations!!

Rebecca said...

You don't know me but I found your blog by accident and I just could not pass the chance to say Congratulations. I have been so touched by your blog and your inspiring words. A baby is such a blessing for any family. I have three of my own and they are my world. You are a very strong person. I hope you start feeling better soon...Thanksgiving dinner is my favorite too and we go to my mom's and she is the best cook ever. Congratulations again!

Chelsa said...

what a great reason to miss posts :) i'm 20 wks so we are 7 wks apart! fun!

mommyofthree said...

Congratulations! What a barrage of emotions you must be feeling, and coupled with hormones and nausea, it's understandable why you haven't posted! Taking care of yourself and baby is most important. Best wishes for a happy, healthy pregnancy!

Micaela said...

Stephanie,

Congratulations! Our family has spent many nights praying for you as a mother and for your family. Hopefully you being to feel well soon. We will continue to send prays in your behalf.

Micaela

Brad, Rebecca, Jacob said...

That is wonderful news for you guys. I hope you start feeling better soon.

Anonymous said...

Oh, I had 2 girls and then a boy and I wasn't so sure about it but that little boy is amazing! I still adore the girls, of course! So, yes, we wish you health. And babies bring such joy that will help to heal ALL of you. Do the girls know? And don't worry about the blog!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations Stephanie and Jon, Whatever you have will be beautiful like your girls. Take care, Vicki G.

Jen said...

Congrats!

Skylette said...

Oh! Congratulations Stephanie and family! This truly is an exciting/emotional/anxious time! I can't wait for the updates and posts. Your family continues to be in our prayers and how special to know that your precious Camille is probably getting to know her sweet little sibling already. All the best!

Ashlin and Mike said...

Congratulations! That is such exciting news. As soon as you said you were falling asleep before your kids, I just knew I had to read faster to get to the news!

I am due May 2 with twins and so my husband is telling me they're two boys and they're going to play professional baseball and make us a lot of money. Husbands are very silly!

Juanita Robinson said...

Congratulations to the Waite family!! What exciting wonderful news! I too am a silent reader and a member of the LDS church and absoulutely love reading your blog. You are such an inspirational strong person. And with your strength you have upheld not only you, but your family as well. I can just imagine how your little bundle of joy is getting so much information on his/her family down here on earth from his/her big sister. They are having so much fun!
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your emotions with all of us who enjoy reading them. I will continue to follow as your pregnancy progresses and to see if your husband was right on a baby boy!! Men are sooo funny! Congrats again!

~Love from the Robinson's~

Jennie said...

Congratulations! That is awesome news for you guys!

Jennifer said...

Congratulations! My morning sickness was perfectly timed to interfere with my birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's so I can totally identify with your concerns about Thanksgiving. I will be praying that you have a healthy and joyful pregnancy and that you'll feel better soon. Don't worry about the blog. We'll just look forward to your posts all the more!

Lynda said...

You probably have a large amount of anonymous or silent readers to your blog. Some of us are coming forth at the great news you are sharing. I, too, want to send my congratulations. I am LDS and love your style of writing and the inspiration it gives me. You can't help but be blessed for all of the help you are giving to many.

Dava_Hudson said...

thats really funny because we have the same due date! cinco de mayo! lol congrats!!!

cynphil6 said...

Congrats!!
We love you and yours!!!


xoxoox
The Bailey's

April said...

Congratulations on your new little Miracle!

Carl and Mel said...

So excited for you! It will be fun to have a new baby around your house! Keep us updated, are you going to find out what you are having? Good luck with the morning sickness, I hope it gets better!

Heather H said...

Congratulations! That is such wonderful news but I am sure it is a little bitter sweet, too. I am so impressed that you have been able to keep blogging, I am due the 24th of April and until very recently our poor blog got very neglected. Go you!! I hope you feel better very soon.

Amanda said...

YAY!!! That is so exciting! Congratulations!! Hope you start to feel better soon. I'm kind of the opposite about Thanksgiving.. I gained almost no weight until Thanksgiving, and then 10 pounds from Thanksgiving to Christmas (yes... in one month).. apparently I liked Thanksgiving a little too much!! Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!!

jaanderson family said...

I am so happy for you and your family! Congratulations!

Jay and Jen's Life said...

Yay Stephanie I am so happy for you! Congratulations. :))) My baby girl had a due date of May 5th too, of 2007. Of course she came a little early but what a great day. I wish you the absolute best with your pregnancy and hope you are back to enjoying food very soon.

Jay and Jen's Life said...

Yay Stephanie I am so happy for you! Congratulations. :))) My baby girl had a due date of May 5th too, of 2007. Of course she came a little early but what a great day. I wish you the absolute best with your pregnancy and hope you are back to enjoying food very soon.

Captain and First Officer said...

Congratulations Waite family! Hope you start to feel better soon!

Love from Mesa

The Forney Four said...

COngratulations!! I'm sure little Camille is up there right now giving that sweet baby some tips as he/she prepares for their arrival. What a precious showing of the Lord's tender mercy.

Lisa said...

Here is your 100th comment for this post! I have been checking in on you these past few months and have been edified by your perspective. Congratulations on your news!! No matter what, I have found that there is always that feeling of hope that accompanies pregnancy. What a blessing.

shelley said...

Stephanie I am so delighted for you! This is such wonderful news for you and your lovely husband and your beautiful daughters. What a perfect blessing for all of you to feel that wonderful love that comes with the arrival of a newborn baby. From God's arms to yours, this will be such ray of sunshine as you continue to 'patiently wait' to see your sweet Camille again. I continue to pray for your little family...you are enduring so well!

Twinkletoes said...

Congratulations! I am so excited for ALL of you!

Memmott Family said...

Congratulations!